Boundaries. These B-word buggers have the ability to make or break your life. And no, I’m not kidding. I spent 10 years looking at charts & graphs as I built a corporate career but completely ignored the “chart” of my self-esteem until the day I noticed an interesting correlation. Every time I let my boundaries slide away from my values & vision my self-esteem went right down with it.
You deserve better than repeating my mistake. So let’s get proactive and talk about 5 indicators you may need better boundaries in your life:
You often find yourself whining about your boss, coworker, that neighbor next door. This is a DEAD GIVEAWAY it’s time for you to assert yourself and work to establish some clearer lines communicating your wants & needs to others.
2. WISHING YOU HAD MORE TIME.
We all have the same amount. If you’re wishing for more it’s a sign you’re spending time on stuff you just plain don’t want to be. Let’s fix that!
3. FREQUENTLY APOLOGIZING.
“I’m so sorry I’m running late! I’m sorry I missed that deadline!” This was the story of my life before my wake up call. The line was drawn and I’d violate it again and again. When I set boundaries in line with the woman I wanted to be I no longer had to hand out apologies like they were free candy.
4. PLAYING THE VICTIM CARD.
Do you come home and vent to your friends or your partners about how your peer, a friend or maybe even a boss took advantage of your time, skills, money, or energy that day? Again, YOU can change that in the future with healthy boundaries.
5. OVERWHELMING & PERSISTENT NEGATIVITY.
You’re upset, angry, and just plain miserable way more than normal. Consider the possibility that you may be violating YOUR OWN boundaries. The boundaries we set for ourselves are arguably much more important than those we place on others. It’s counterintuitive initially, right? But honey, when you start honoring yourself and your own limits beautiful things happen.
Does this sound like you or someone you may know? Here’s the good news…
It’s possible to change these things by redrawing the lines! If you need help on how check out what a coaching relationship with me might look like. Then let’s talk in a free discovery session and see if we’re a good fit!
When you stop making compromises on what matters most to you everything else starts to change. I can speak from personal experience here in addition to witnessing dozens of clients do the same. If you’re ready to take radical self-responsibility for your life and your choices I’m ready to coach you in clarifying your next chapter, establishing healthy boundaries, boosting your self-esteem and getting you to the places you actually want to go!